Eve Thomas, Professional Victim

Yeah, yeah, I know, her again.  There is a quote, “If you can’t be a good example, you’ll just have to be a horrible warning”.  Thomas is a good example of a horrible warning. She is what I call a Professional Victim, she will go through life protesting and crying that all the bad things, by her definition, that happen to her are Not Her Fault.

What is a Professional Victim? My definition is a person so focused on their own agenda that the possible outcome of any of their actions doesn’t register in their mind.  This is a person who will walk down an unlighted, deserted alley after dark in a dodgy part of town and cry because they got mugged. In their mind they were only trying to get to their car faster and only had to walk a short distance and and and. You and I might look down that dark alley and think that walking an extra block or two on a street where there are lights and people is a better decision but not the PV.

So we come to Eve, who is emoting all over Twitter about how VoicelessNoMore’s, http://voicelessnomore.wordpress.com/ , blog is too, too much when what it is is a wake up to reality call. But Eve won’t answer, she has her fingers stuck in her ears and is humming loudly. Oh yes, and none of it is her fault.

But I ask you if you are a survivor of domestic abuse would you ever put your real name on the net then use a pseudonym but tell everyone it’s a pseudonym and then tell all your real first name? Would you announce to the world you live in the same house where the abuse was committed? Would you tell them what kind of alarm system you have? Would you tweet your activities constantly? Would you publish pictures of yourself and your adult children?

Eve is all upset, so she claims, by someone using her real name on Twitter but, honestly, the first person to put her real name out there was Eve herself. Her married name and a picture of her with her ex-husband was recently published in a publication because Eve just had to write to Nigella Lawson and tell her her story and as a distant second offer advice on leaving a bad situation. But publishing the picture and her married name wasn’t her fault. No, indeed, not at all. If all she wanted was to offer support then she could have done it anonymously.

But that wouldn’t have put Eve’s name in the papers, that wouldn’t have given her what she really wanted. Publicity for herself. So now we know her husband’s name, another little piece of Eve’s identity to make it easier for anyone to find her.

So what do we know about Eve from Eve herself?

Her real name

Her physical description, pictures included

Her grandparents name

Her married name and her ex-husband’s name

The town where she lives

She has lived at the same address for over twenty years

The brand of alarm system she uses

She likes to tweet her various public appearances

She doesn’t want anyone to post any of this because an angry abuser might show up at her door. Does she think because she posted it it doesn’t count? No awareness. None. Eve can cry and protest till the cows come home but the only one putting Eve in harm’s way, real or not, is Eve herself.