a : assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something
b : one in which confidence is placed
a : one that is not hostile
b : one that is of the same nation, party, or group
I’ve written this blog about five times, in five different ways and still I’m not satisfied. But this has to be the final one. This has to say what I’ve held onto for several months and then I’m done. Done with this situation, this person who has created this situation and any of those who defend this person.
We all lie. We tell little white lies to spare the feelings, bigger lies because the truth isn’t ours to tell. Some people lie to the police, on their income taxes, to their spouses. Some people lie to save their lives, some lie to ensure others lose theirs. We all lie.
Some lies are understandable, some are just forgivable, but there are some neither understandable nor forgivable. When you belong to a group online that is relying on your word of trust, your words of friendship, I cannot understand why anyone would choose to tell small, senseless lies. Lies easily found out if others weren’t so inclined to believe in the impeccable character of the person telling them.
I have three possible reasons for the lying. The first is that the person needs everyone to believe these lies for because of something they have done or will do that necessitates everyone believes the lies. The second is that they were/are testing the waters, so to speak, to see if they can get away with more lies in the future. And the third is that they just lie, like other people breathe. None of these conclusions fill me with a sense of trust.
What are these unsettling little lies? Last year this person joined this group and the shortly after stopped visiting, when asked they claimed that the group wasn’t what they thought and they weren’t interested. Then two months ago this person returns saying how good it was to be back and how they never would have found their way on their own so they asked another member to help them return. But this person is supposedly very, very knowledgeable with computers so that would have set me to looking if I hadn’t been watching this member lurk for months. In fact, they had lurked the previous day for several hours.
Then they exclaimed over the cute little red message that pops up when you post your first comment but since they had originally posted six or seven times (app) that cute little red message wasn’t going to be popping up again. Every word was calculated to make it seem like this was the very first time.
Why, why was/is it so important?
Now this person is saying what a great group of people and we must all work together for a common cause but I only see one cause being worked on-hers.
Now she has involved the group in gathering posts and comments for her cause, Carroll Bryant. Once again she’s is going to poke and prod and stir the shit but the last time she did that nothing much happened except that someone other than Carroll disappeared. Very bad aim. And why CB anyway, as someone just said, in the grand scheme of BBAs he’s a poor second stringer.
At the beginning of this post I listed the definitions of trust and friend. I haven’t seen any friendship or trust, you don’t casually lie to those you call good people, you do casually lie if all you are doing is just using them. Are they friends or just resources, here’s what I think everyone needs to know:
Why the lies, GenX?